today's episode is specifically intended for a group of people who are listening right now the group of people who are feeling overwhelmed maybe you're not feeling overwhelmed right now but when you do i want you to bookmark this episode and come back to it if you know someone who is feeling this right now you can either send them this episode or just share the the exercise with them as well if you care about productivity if you listen to this podcast or other podcasts they talk about decision science or talk about optimizing the way you think about your work and your life you can feel overwhelmed even by me even by what we say on the show you can feel overwhelmed by the books that you've read about how to make better decisions how to prioritize how to become better in everything you're doing just one percent every day everyone says and you can't seem to get past zero percent and in fact some days because you don't feel like you're growing you feel like you're receding you're not only are you not making it to that one percent but you're actually going to negative one percent and that compounds and it feels like the weight is unbearable i want you to perform one simple exercise today first take out some kind of paper or a notebook or even on your phone you can do it this way if you're a verbal person you can do it as a voice memo however you choose to get thoughts recorded take that method i want you to spend give yourself two to three minutes if you need longer that's fine and get everything out of your head and it's free of charge so i want you to do that today this is just a way of expressing getting some kind of thoughts out of your head and as you're doing this as they come flowing freely and it will become easier as you do this exercise again in the future but as those thoughts flow freely you should also be able to observe them so you're kind of doing two things at once although it's not a lot of work but you're kind of doing two things at once not really multitasking you're allowing thoughts to come and go you're recording kind of the output of those thoughts what is the expression that you would give to those thoughts and then you're watching them and you're looking for key kind of critical things you might feel a moment of spiking in your emotions or you might resolve on one topic maybe you're revolving around that topic and talking about it more often than anything else whatever it is this should give you some kind of soft insight into why why you're feeling the way you're feeling now it might be uh you know maybe the theme is that there's so many things so it's not just one topic and you don't need to artificially look for something that is central to that feeling it may be that you have many things going on this is a very common cause of anxiety and really most of the time when you feel overwhelmed it often can be kind of traced back to anxiety or stress and my goal here is not to teach you how to handle anxiety and stress certainly not how to handle all of that weight of all of those problems the truth is there's nothing i can say in a five minute podcast that's going to teach you how to handle stress forever and the rest of your life but what we can do is we can take one step and that is the goal of this exercise take one step and take one step and take one step and take one step and take one step when you think about whatever you've written down whatever you've recorded on your voice memo maybe you need to go back and review it to do this encourage you not to review it too much but look for those high points try to remember what is it that really got to the core of your feeling of overwhelm when you find whatever that thing is i want you to choose something that you can control this very simple concept it might be difficult in practice something that you can control and i want you to make that your only goal for the day yes you may have other things that need to get done and you can have a to-do list or whatever it is that you do to manage your work i'm not necessarily saying do this one thing and then go back to bed that's not what i'm kind of proposing here but what i am saying is if you're going to measure your success for the day if you're going to measure whether or not you succeeded today it is not a matter of whether or not you succeeded today it is a matter of whether or not you succeeded today it is by this one thing did you do this one thing and really the the point of this is to peel back the layers that we talk about on these shows so often that you hear in books that you hear from your manager all of the different strategies and ways of approaching work all of the ways to make better decisions all of the refactoring methods that you need to apply to your code all the great test cases that you could write for that one feature we're going to peel all of that back because the truth is nobody nobody is applying all of that all at once if they're trying to do that they're going to fail hear this very clearly nobody is applying all of that wisdom or insight nobody is applying all of those strategies uh in a in a practical way all the time instead i want you to choose this one thing that you can control maybe the one thing that you can control maybe the one thing that you can control maybe the one thing that you can control maybe that one thing is you want to complete that one particular task or you want to clean up that one specific closet in your house choose that one thing whatever it is and make it your only goal your only criteria for personal success today if you fail in other areas that's your only goal that's okay because what you're learning to do here is balance and make progress in an area that you can control focusing on what you can control rather than on all of the different variables that are out of your control or trying to focus on influence this is going to give you that sense of agency and this is absolutely critical you need to maintain a sense of agency in order to overcome this feeling of overwhelm now note that this doesn't invalidate the sense of agency the sense of agency is not only the sense of being able to control your own emotions but also the sense of being able to control your own emotions and your own emotions and your own emotions and gaining influence in your career that's still important but when you're feeling this kind of feeling of underwater trying to do everything all at once simply isn't going to work what you'll likely find is that when you focus on doing one important thing per day that is that one percent better every day that is the growth that you're looking for eventually you'll build habits that allow you to check multiple boxes per day but it's not because you're actively thinking about everything all the time that would be overwhelming for anyone even the highest performing people if you do nothing else but that one thing you're successful now you're also training yourself to prioritize as a habit if you can effectively prioritize one important thing every day of your life that's 365 actually important things that you do every year now important is up to you we're not talking about choosing something that your boss thinks is important although that may be an overlap we're talking about things that are important to you which is why i say 365 days rather than however many days you're working per year for your main job choosing to do important things with your time is something that extends into the weekend an important thing for you doesn't necessarily have to mean expensive things for you it's something that you can do every day of your life and that's why you're building a skill that's necessary to prioritize everything that you have to do every day if you build the skill of prioritization you have a lot of work to do every day and you're not just going to do everything that you have to do every day you're going to have to do everything that you have to do every day you're going to have to do a wonderful toolbox to wield against the feeling of being overwhelmed thank you for listening to today's episode if you enjoyed this episode i encourage you number one bookmark it i don't often ask you uh to do that but bookmark it because if you're feeling overwhelmed you can come back to this and it'll be a good reminder of how to get out of that feeling secondly if you enjoyed this discussion and you want more like it well do two things one subscribe on whatever podcasting app you're currently using and number two subscribe to my channel and hit the bell so you don't miss any of my new videos and i'll see you in the next one bye enjoy our discord community we talk about these kinds of things on a regular basis there you can ask any question we have a room that's specifically dedicated to allowing any kind of question at all there's no stupid questions in that discord it's totally free completely open to you as the listener of the show head over 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