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Mental Models for Finding Balance

Published 5/25/2020

In today's episode, we're talking about balance as it relates to decision making. We'll dig into two models of thinking that can help us understand the nuance of balance as it relates to daily decisions.

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What does mean when we say balance? We use this term when we're talking about our work. We use it when we're talking about our political views. We use it when we're talking about how we judge other people. We use the term balance when we talk about how we should treat other people. And we certainly use it when we talk about decision making. But what exactly is balance? And who decides when something is in a good balance or if it's unbalanced? In today's episode, we're going to talk about two models of thinking that can help us understand some nuances about balance. My name is Jonathan Cutrelly, I'm listening to Developer Tea and my goal on this show is to help driven developers like you find clarity, perspective, and purpose in their careers. And here's the reality. And most of the time when we use that word, what we mean is something acceptable, something that feels peaceful, for example, when we use it in the frame of work, life balance. Or something that we generally agree is fair when we're talking about the justice system. And defining that balance is a dynamic problem that doesn't have a singular solution. For example, balancing a workload, well, it's going to look different for different people based on their capacity, maybe based on what kind of what phase of life they're in. And so balance has no singular representation. It is like most things relative to your context. But there are different ways that we achieve balance. You can at first imagine someone balancing on a tightrope. The idea being that any misstep will throw them out of balance. And that once the tightrope walker is out of balance, there is no recovering because, well, they've fallen. Another mental image you can bring up is that of a scale where you weigh down one side and you try to weigh down the other one in equal proportion. Many times when we think about balance as it relates to our personal lives, the picture that comes up is more like a calendar. And if you're to scan across that calendar, the places where you're spending time, if they are heavily weighted in one area, you may feel unbalanced. But I want to talk about two models of balance that come from the hard sciences. Specifically, I want to talk about thermodynamic balance or entropy balance and chemical balance. First let's talk about thermodynamic balance for a minute. Thermodynamic balance is the balance of essentially temperature. And temperature is a measure of energy. Higher amounts of heat means there's more energy and lower amounts of heat means there's less energy. And generally speaking, when you put something that has high energy near something that has low energy, they will interact. They're not going to stay separate from each other, but instead that kind of system, if you were to say create a vacuum and have one area of the vacuum, half of the vacuum is high energy and the other half of the vacuum is low energy. Those two fields of particles, whatever they are, air or water or whatever, will tend to move towards some equilibrium. Now, it's important to note that another law of thermodynamics is that no energy is lost or created in a given system. So this is all theoretical. If you had something that had, let's say, 100 units of energy and something that had 50 units of energy and they were in equal proportion to each other, then you would end up with 75 units of energy on average across that whole field. But technically, the law of thermodynamics that we're referencing here is that things will tend to move towards an absolute zero, which essentially means that there's no difference. There's no potential energy in the system available. So why are we talking about this law of thermodynamics and what does it have to do with your kind of sense of balance as a person or in your work? Or there's a lot of ways that we can apply this concept to our lives, applying this model of thinking to our lives. When you are feeling a sense of tension, when you feel what you would label as unbalanced, it's very likely that you have this kind of juxtaposition where you are holding too much energy and we'll use that term kind of loosely right now, where you are doing too much, for example. And the equilibrium that you need to find is by doing less. This is an oversimplified example because in most systems, balance or equilibrium is not found simply between two competing forces. We don't live in a vacuum where you have only two kind of fields that are trying to find equilibrium. We live in a much more complex environment with new variables being introduced every day. I'll give you a very simple example of this. Before I was married and before I had children, I had more available energy to put towards working. When I say working, I mean learning, doing things on the side, all of the extra energy that I now am putting towards my relationships with my family. This seems like an obvious example, but what this means is that balance has a different definition for me now. Balance means something different than it used to. And this isn't always purely on an individual level. Sometimes balance is a shared concept in a given culture or a given context. We do have some shared limits as humans, but we also have shared culture that changes our personal definitions or personal perceptions of what it means to work with balance. Most of the time when we talk about balance as it relates to our work, we're talking about what proportion of our time are we spending on work. The modifier that we use as a employer is we provide time off. We provide holidays. This is one of the benefits that an employer might provide. But sometimes, sometimes the amount of time off has nothing to do with the balance at all. We're going to talk about a different type of balance right after we talk about today's sponsor. Today's episode is sponsored by headspin. Headspin for mobile, unifies end to end automated testing, full stack performance monitoring, advanced user experience analytics for any application, native or web running on any device and any network anywhere in the world. Headspin uses their patented global device infrastructure that offers real, sem-enabled devices on real Wi-Fi and carrier networks with 24-7 remote access. In addition, artificial intelligence-powered analysis track user experience metrics and KPIs over time. You contract things like cold and warm starts, errors, crashes, response times, audio and video quality, even biometric responsiveness. Pretty fancy. Go ahead and check it out. Headspin.io to get started today. That's headspin.io. Thanks again to headspin for sponsoring today's episode of Developer Tea. So we've been talking about finding balance. You can think about this in terms of the scientific term equilibrium. So what exactly is equilibrium? We've already talked about one type of equilibrium where you balance the amount of energy spent. This is the basic laws of thermodynamics where you have two fields of energy. One is high and one is low. They're going to tend to mix to try to find an equilibrium, something in the middle. And humans tend to do this with the amount of work we're willing to do. We also do this in a bunch of other ways that are abstract from specific types of energy. But equilibrium is not just about finding a midpoint. Equilibrium and balance is more about resolution than it is about equality. And when I say equality here, I'm thinking more in terms of balancing that scale out. The second model of thinking as it relates to equilibrium that I want to bring up comes from chemistry. Two different elements. We're going to keep it as simple as possible. Two different elements, given in the right quantities, might bind to each other. Without getting into the details, the simplest explanation for this is that it depends on the characteristics of that element. For example, H2O, two molecules of hydrogen happens to bind with oxygen quite well. This particular bond is actually what's called a covalent bond. But the specifics here matter less than the overarching concept, which is that certain elements in certain quantities will bond well together. And this is an example of equilibrium. And this equilibrium is in some ways quite similar to the equilibrium that we would find in thermodynamics. But here's the model that I want you to take away from this. Once again, we're not talking about elements here. We're using this as a model for applying to higher level concepts and thinking. That is that when you have chemical bonds or when you have two elements that attract and combine well, substituting a different element provides a different type of equilibrium, or perhaps doesn't bond at all. And there's no equilibrium to be found. This is what happens, for example, when you try to throw money at a problem. All of us have a particular limit where money doesn't really solve our equilibrium problem. When you're trying to find balance, it's not just about amounts. It's not just about changing the amount of work that you do, for example. But it may also be about the type of work that you do. It may be about something totally different entirely, like appreciation from your coworkers or from your manager. Learning balance is a complex subject because we aren't talking about simple systems. We aren't talking about simple values that we need to play with. We're talking about the whole world of experience for us as engineers. And so it makes sense to explore different ways of trying to achieve balance. Our intuition in this particular way doesn't always service right. Intuition might say that I need a week off to feel right again or to avoid burning out. But once you come back from that week, did anything really change? It's possible. It's possible that the week really does recharge you and get you ready for work again. But it may also be the case that your intuition is telling you to take a week off. But the real solution here is not a thermodynamic solution, it's a chemical solution. That your burnout is not a result of too much work, but rather the wrong type of work. Thanks so much for listening to today's episode of Developer Tea. I hope that you are finding balance in your own unique way in this particularly stressful time for many people. I hope that you are able to find balance through that time. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you again to Headspin for sponsoring today's episode. Headspin.io to get started today. This episode and every episode of Developer Tea is a part of the SPEC network, head over to SPEC.FM to learn more and find other shows that are built specifically for designers and developers who want to level up in their careers. Today's episode was produced by Sarah Jackson. My name is Jonathan Cutrell. And until next time, enjoy your tea.